SOCIAL NETWORKING AND US

 I was just wondering how peaceful my life was before I started using all the social websites. I was more focused and had more time to spend with people I care about and More time to invest actually in my life by doing things that ACTUALLY matter. And when I see people from past , they see the same me and have the same level of expectations from me and that makes me wonder what happened?
we under-estimate the power of indulgence once we start one. We feel happy at first, in fact it is one type of escapism, we escape the real world and its worry and in that time we are a new person and enjoy that. Now with all these new gadgets and smartphones we tend to  be connected to this outer world (as we believe) round the clock and the likes and comments count boosts up the confidence and moral and if not that , at least the rush of "feel good hormones" is what we get. 
However, truly what this all is doing is drawing us apart in real world and connecting us to the false descriptions of people we think we know.You might get hundreds of wishes on you birthday on Facebook but that is because of the reminder. In actual life the count will be far less. however the number feeds our vanity, 200 likes 45 comments 300 birthday wishes 1000+ friends but is that what really matters?
When you get struck with an adversity in life, then who would come for you? do all those people matter. i bet many are those whose friend request you accepted because you had 60+ friends but have no clue who they are.
there is another aspect to it. All this extra information you get to absorb, practically useless one just grabs this space in the hard drive of your mind. You don't need it!
I now get sickened by all those motivational quotes saying "life is this..."you are..." blah blah..on my news-feed, i mean what really needs to be done is go out, find yourself, find a purpose in life and define yourself! period.
i also believe that this social networking has led us too have unnecessary involvement in other people's life and vice versa, People would go to a place and before they can actually have fun. They will take all crazy photos and upload making sure there are people out there who are jealous of them.moreover , people get tp judge you for every post you share. so where is it all going to? we are hating and loving people on the basis of what they choose to show. 
Actual interaction , being spontaneous helps us see the original side of people. In fact all emotions and reaction are real and there is no alterations which social media enables us to do.
Only recently I blocked myself from all this for a while and noticed a very positive change in myself.I was less anxious somehow. I had a well-organised day and was able to see my real life as it really is. Its a small affair. there is no hastle .There are not many people involved but only those who care and i care about and it feels enough. it helped to eliminate a lot of negative energy too.
for example there are little things we start to care about with networking, why did not he/she like the post, why he/she did not accept the friend request? was that post about me? he/ she unfriend me? How could he/she? Admit it or not everyone has experienced any of the above kind of anxiety at any level. So going off all this just leaves people you can be honest with. Does not it make life a lot easier?  
I might sound totally against it but I am not. I am against the worst it can create of us and how disable our lives can get. I will suggest all of  the people to sign out for a while and try to live without it for at least a week or two and you will feel the difference .Once you do define your priorities and make your life (real life) a priority , then the social networking might not be such a big a problem. Just think for a while ,do you feel lonely even if you are connected? does your life feel purposeless even if your web life shows you have a great one?  If so , then you might just be a victim of social networking and need to fix it.

When the Masks Fell Off

Funny, how when the sun is out everything is warm,vibrant and every face beams a shinning bright smile.
Every face registers that they are in harmony with you.They laugh, sing and dance.Everything is so perfect that you can not believe your luck. You take all these faces to be your friends and are so glad to have them and count on them for the rainy days.
Then comes the army of clouds.They shout and thunder as they come;warning about what is to come. They cover the whole bright sky and hide the brightest ray of sun. It becomes cold and dark. You can not see anything . You stretch your hands out in the dark to find someone around you, but what?No one around that you can find. Where are they, the beaming faces once you saw?
A bolt of thunder illuminates the sky and the land for a split second, and you see these faces far away, safe in their sheds.Watching you getting wet and cold. Then down comes the rain and washes away the painted smiles...the true faces now you can see. Its like the masks fell off and you see the ugliness hid behind.
Now you are there in the middle of nowhere ,all alone with those faces staring at you from a distance,doing nothing to help you.
Pity how things changed when the storm came in.
Wonder which was worse the storm itself or the truth unleashed.

The Strict Bed Rest

I met a small car accident around a week back.A truck hit the rear of the car ,luckily it was not in much speed and stopped in time.I am grateful to God who saved my life ,however due to the impact I sustained soft tissue injury to my back and neck.
Since then , pain is the new me. The neck and back have been  stiff and straight like a stick .The pain gnwaing and silently killing me.Since then i have been on bed rest.Which is itself a horrible experience.
From my experience I learned a few things which I would like to share:

1) Pain can only be understood if one has felt it.You can never convey it to anyone how much pain you are in if he never had known pain.People will look at you and be satisfied to see no bruises no fever ,nothing to suggest severity.Only people who have suffered pain will be able to understand what you are going through.

2)If you are not okay,admit it that you are not okay.There is no need to try to pull yourself up and act hero while you can't.It will only worsen it.I tried resuming routine work soon after i felt a little better,which just aggravated my condition and prolonged the much dreaded bed rest time.

3)Go see a doctor right away.Never wait for it to get better on its own.

4)In times like these ,when you get a lot of time on your own,you come to new realisations about yourself,appreciate life more and stregnthens your faith.When you realise how worse things could have ended and they did not ,you can not thank God enough .Your faith in God increases.

5)When it starts to hurt to move your neck right and left and you can not walk few steps without your back aching, you realise how many things you take for granted in everday life.With this kind of temporary disability I considered my life to be a hell and yet there are so many people out there with major permanent disabilities acting strong and strruggling to keep moving.Health in itself is the greatest blessing,be thankful for it.All else come secondary.

6)Depression is a monster which comes around to pay visit to you when you are in times like this.Do not open the door for it.Keep a positive prespective whay ever happens.Things will get better soon.

7)Be thankful for people who cheer you up when you are down.They are worth a million.

Anyone who gets to read this please pray for my speedy recovery.

Chasing the Fire

There are times in life when you are trying very hard for something and praying that God grant you what you desire .But no matter how far you go in your struggle,you do not get what you want.
Why are  my prayers are not  being answered? Am i not trying hard enough?why can not i get what I want?Am i doing something wrong?
All types of doubts fill our minds and make our hearts restless.
Once when randomly I was thinking about it, I saw a child constantly trying to touch the fire in the gas heater and his mom would tap his hand away and the child would cry in annoyance.
Watching this I smiled. This was the answer. When you want something ,you love it and desire it to be yours. However ,what you do not know at that point is that you might be asking for the fire.
And God knows better.God loves you 70 times more than your mother does so why would He hand you the fire?You may feel terrible at that moment but its for your own good. And that is something what you will learn as time passes. You will be rewarded with what is truly good for you and you will apreciate the wisdom of God at that time.
So at time of despair ,just hold on and know that God is taking care of you and everything will turn out to be okay. you just have to have  that faith and stick to it.

Becoming Who We Thought We Would Never Be...

When we are young we claim not to be so many things when we grow up;however,  time changes, things change , we change...Most interestingly, we become all that we thought, rather swore we would never become.
We believe we will be righteous all our lives but we lie,cheat and hurt people at some point or another,intentionaly or unintentionaly.

We believe that we will stay strong and never fall apart, but we all cave in, we all shatter down, we all die a little,we all cry in seclusion.

We believe we will.never fall for anyone, we will never give that control to anyone upon us, but we do fall for someone n let that person mean a world to us.

We believe we will never be like our elders but we all become replica of our mothers or fathers in the end.

As young people we claim to avoid so many things in life but we end up doing them, living them. Because deep down we all know we have the tendency to go that way and so wish we rather do not.

What we learn is, its okay to be weak at times, it is  okay to make mistakes,it is okay to be like normal people.
Perfection does not exist. It is not even required. Beauty is in imperfection, going down and then up and laughing at the mistakes of life later on.So live life like that and do not challenge yourself to become too perfect to be human:)

Question a Medical Student Should Ask Himself: What Do I Really Want?

Question a Medical Student Should Ask Himself: What Do I Really Want?

This is the Time.Do it Now!

Alot of people  have the urge to do good and "bring about the change" or work for betterment of people.Alot of young passionate people amongst us have that desire to work for humanity"when they grow up".but that is the question :when does that"growing up" time comes?what time it specify?when u are OLD and don't have energy ?
My point is not to discourage anyone .Yes ,we wish to have adequate resources before we start a welfare work but not everything requires money.

Volunteer, help where and when you can. Spend time with people who would need your attention. Believe me, sometime a person in pain only needs you to listen to them.

Teach to poor young children.even that is a sadaqa jariah.

Donate blood if you are healthy young person,the patients of blood diseases need it more than your money!

So you don't need to GROW UP to do what you want to do.Do it now when you are young energetic and full of ideas and have time and health.