I was just wondering how peaceful my life was before I started using all the social websites. I was more focused and had more time to spend with people I care about and More time to invest actually in my life by doing things that ACTUALLY matter. And when I see people from past , they see the same me and have the same level of expectations from me and that makes me wonder what happened?
we under-estimate the power of indulgence once we start one. We feel happy at first, in fact it is one type of escapism, we escape the real world and its worry and in that time we are a new person and enjoy that. Now with all these new gadgets and smartphones we tend to be connected to this outer world (as we believe) round the clock and the likes and comments count boosts up the confidence and moral and if not that , at least the rush of "feel good hormones" is what we get.
However, truly what this all is doing is drawing us apart in real world and connecting us to the false descriptions of people we think we know.You might get hundreds of wishes on you birthday on Facebook but that is because of the reminder. In actual life the count will be far less. however the number feeds our vanity, 200 likes 45 comments 300 birthday wishes 1000+ friends but is that what really matters?
When you get struck with an adversity in life, then who would come for you? do all those people matter. i bet many are those whose friend request you accepted because you had 60+ friends but have no clue who they are.
there is another aspect to it. All this extra information you get to absorb, practically useless one just grabs this space in the hard drive of your mind. You don't need it!
I now get sickened by all those motivational quotes saying "life is this..."you are..." blah blah..on my news-feed, i mean what really needs to be done is go out, find yourself, find a purpose in life and define yourself! period.
i also believe that this social networking has led us too have unnecessary involvement in other people's life and vice versa, People would go to a place and before they can actually have fun. They will take all crazy photos and upload making sure there are people out there who are jealous of them.moreover , people get tp judge you for every post you share. so where is it all going to? we are hating and loving people on the basis of what they choose to show.
Actual interaction , being spontaneous helps us see the original side of people. In fact all emotions and reaction are real and there is no alterations which social media enables us to do.
Only recently I blocked myself from all this for a while and noticed a very positive change in myself.I was less anxious somehow. I had a well-organised day and was able to see my real life as it really is. Its a small affair. there is no hastle .There are not many people involved but only those who care and i care about and it feels enough. it helped to eliminate a lot of negative energy too.
for example there are little things we start to care about with networking, why did not he/she like the post, why he/she did not accept the friend request? was that post about me? he/ she unfriend me? How could he/she? Admit it or not everyone has experienced any of the above kind of anxiety at any level. So going off all this just leaves people you can be honest with. Does not it make life a lot easier?
I might sound totally against it but I am not. I am against the worst it can create of us and how disable our lives can get. I will suggest all of the people to sign out for a while and try to live without it for at least a week or two and you will feel the difference .Once you do define your priorities and make your life (real life) a priority , then the social networking might not be such a big a problem. Just think for a while ,do you feel lonely even if you are connected? does your life feel purposeless even if your web life shows you have a great one? If so , then you might just be a victim of social networking and need to fix it.
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