Bridging the Generation Gap

                               


How many times have you tried to persuade your parents for something and it ended up in:

"Mom! its not what you think..."

or

"You will never understand...."

or just

"Never mind"

Or maybe it ended up with you shutting yourself up in the room for the entire day with you thinking that they would never understand.

This happens and happens a lot of times .And is a problem which always be there if you don't learn to tackle the situation well.(better than ending up in a row).
Your parents do belong to a different generation and things are a lot different from how they were at their times but it does not mean that they would not get it if only you try hard enough to explain.

The following are few things you should try, the next time you see generation gap coming in your way.

Listen
Do not just ask for what you want or state what your stance is. And if they don't agree , do not take it for granted that they would not understand. Listen to what they have got to say. What their concerns are.
Try to explain things and assure them that its what you want and is good for you.Listen to them patiently ,maybe you'll figure out wisdom in it.

Explain
They are a lot of new things and culture around these days. Maybe they are not familiar with them.Don't dismiss them by saying: "You wont get it" .Explain it, they will get it.They raised you, nothing could be more difficult than that.

Be patient
Be gentle, patient and polite with them even though if it take a lot of time to come to conclusion or maybe several sessions.One day your hard work might pay off.But if you lose your mind and confront your parents ...things can never work that way.

Put yourself in their position
Think how you would like to be approached if you were in their position. What could be their expectations and concerns.Then you would develop an understanding of their feelings which is important in strengthening your bond with them and developing trust.

Obey
Obedience can take you long way in life...believe me.Obey what they say in the end...parents appreciate that. They might get impressed with that and listen to you.if not maybe you will see  wisdom in it some day.


Hope these things can be helpful when next time generation gap tries to come between you and your parents.